74. Or Should I Go? ― Resigning Part 2  

Show Notes | September 17, 2020 | Episode 74

It can be tempting to keep your head down, keep a smile on your face and keep working until you’re totally burnt out in a role, but if you do, and especially if you are working remotely, how could you expect your management team to know how you feel? 

It’s kind of like a relationship, your manager can’t read your mind. They look at your face and your work performance and hope those two things match up. 

When you’re clear about what you want (even if that changes) then the management team can clearly see how to keep you, or how to prepare for your eventual exit.

Last week, in our episode “Should I Stay” we discussed reasons why you may want to reconsider submitting your resignation notice. This week, we’re talking about how to really know when it’s time to leave and how to appropriately step away from a position. 

As I mentioned last week, when my friend got an offer for another job she felt guilty about completely blindsiding her boss and her team. Just a few months earlier, she was so happy in her role and had no plans on leaving. I wanted to know what happened? 

Turns out, the job really went in a different direction and it pushed her out of her comfort zone. When asked if she had talked to her boss, she said she hadn’t. 

What she didn’t know is being open with your management team can do two things:

1. Set your manager’s expectations of how you can grow in a position that works for you. 

2. Can help set the tone for your exit if the job is ultimately not working out. 

Since my friend’s boss had no idea she was dissatisfied or planned to leave, the best thing she could do is stop sitting on her secret and tell her boss during the next virtual face-to-face opportunity that she was leaving and they needed to work on a transition plan that would not leave the team high and dry. 

She salvaged the situation and relationship with her boss before it went sour, but making the decision to leave is not always so black and white.

There are a few red flags that should definitely make you leave your job: 

1. You feel stressed. 

2. You feel dissatisfied with the way you are managed. 

3. A toxic work environment. 

4. No growth track. 

Regardless of which of these red flags you’re experiencing, there is an appropriate way to leave. While two weeks is the accepted industry standard, some of the most seamless transitions require a little more time, but they can happen in as little as one hour. 

Your goal as an exiting employee is to ensure everything you’ve worked on is traceable, processed and ready for the next team member. 

Generally new positions come with a desired start date, but before you accept all the new terms ensure that there are at least two weeks between the day you submit your notice and the day you start your new job. 

Don’t feel pressure by the phrase, “How soon can you start?” 

If a company is going to hire you, they are going to hire you just as much in two weeks as they would in four weeks. 

When you explain you are leaving, you don’t have to give a reason for your departure. For the love of the military, do not use these excuses:

1. I’m PCSing.

2. I’m pregnant. 

3. Military life is just too much to hold down a job right now. 

While on the surface these sound like good excuses to you, as a military spouse you are sabotaging the career chances for others milspouses and creating a stereotype that contributes to the unemployment epidemic of our community. 

There are more ways ― deeper, more truthful ways ― to communicate you are moving on than the previous three reasons.

Dig deeper and be truthful about the real reason, or be silent. The truth is completely personal to you and the bottom line is this job is no longer working for you.

This episode eliminates default excuses and replaces them with kind ways to tell the truth.

Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about how to know when it’s time to resign and the best way to tell your employer.  

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Links and Resources

72. Should I Stay? ― Resigning Part 1

Kimber Hill LinkedIn

MilSpouse CoffeeHouse Podcast

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